TO EVERY GIRL WHO FEELS ALONE
“You are not alone.”
Those words echo through my mind, reverberating down into the achiest places of my soul today.
I know how it feels to step aside and let the wave of darkness surge and swell and crash over your limp body—because it’s strong, you feel weak, and you don’t know where to even look for a lifesaver.
I’ve felt the silence of loneliness. The desperation to cry and yell, wanting someone to hear, but coming up empty when you wonder who you should tell.
I know the sting of the word “depression,” how it smacks you with the full force of its weight, but how it also feels distinctly desolate, a desert of heavy emptiness.
I understand. And you are not alone.
To Every Girl Who Feels Alone
To the girl who walks through the halls of her school, feeling painfully out of place, skipping lunch and retreating to the library because she doesn’t want to eat alone in the cafeteria, you are not alone.
To the girl who wears the label “Unloved,” because she doesn’t think her face or clothes or hair or personality measure up, you are not alone.
To the girl who was recently blindsided by an unexpected breakup, feeling like she’s lost her identity and her best friend, deleting a couple photos from Instagram, you are not alone.
To the girl plagued by social anxiety, longing for just one normal interaction with someone—anyone—because she desperately needs one friend, you are not alone.
To the new girl in the youth group who’s at a loss for breaking into the cliques among her peers, you are not alone.
To the girl overwhelmed by a secret, a regrettable decision she made that could change everything, a decision she can’t wrap her words around, a decision that she wonders if she should keep hidden always . . . you are not alone.
To the girl simply trying to navigate her day without the weight of inexplicable sadness stopping her in her tracks, paralyzing her, keeping her from moving forward, freezing her in place with tears streaming down her cheeks, you are not alone.
To the girl wrestling with an issue deemed unacceptable in our Christian community, an issue accompanied by hundreds of questions, an issue that wants to eat her alive, you are not alone.
To the girl who feels abandoned by her family, forgotten by her parents, longing for consistent love and support, yearning for belonging, mourning the loss of significant relationships and bonds, you are not alone.
To the girl who did something that plagues every inch of her with bitter regret, something that feels completely unforgivable, you are not alone.
To the girl betrayed by her best friend, left high and dry, and now doubting that anyone wants to be her friend at all, you are not alone.
To the girl wondering what it would be like to give up, you are not alone.
You Have Searched and Known Me
You are not alone.
You are deeply known, fully understood, and unfathomably loved by God. He’s right there, in your mess, tears, aching, despairing, writhing. Right there, in your desolate place. And He’s not going anywhere.
This isn’t a trite band aid to slap on your hurting heart. This unfailing truth can change everything for you.
He knows you. He sees your every move with loving eyes. He understands every angle and aspect of what you’re experiencing, and none of it—not one single bit of it—needs to be hidden from Him.
Read Psalm 139:1–6 slowly, allowing the goodness of these God-ordained realities to breathe hope into your soul:
LORD, You have searched me and known me.
You know when I sit down and when I stand up;
You understand my thoughts from far away.
You observe my travels and my rest;
You are aware of all my ways.
Before a word is on my tongue,
You know all about it, LORD.
You have encircled me;
You have placed Your hand on me.
This extraordinary knowledge is beyond me.
It is lofty; I am unable to reach it.
You are not alone. God encircles you, places His hand on you, and even before you feel pain, He knows it. Even before you believe the enemy’s lie that you’re alone, He’s there.
I want to grab your hands, look into your eyes, and tell you that you’re not alone. And I wonder how many girls, Christian teen girls, feel desperately alone today. How many of us need to run to Jesus, crying out for help because we don’t feel known or understood? How many of us are on the brink of ruin because the pain is debilitating—and we’ve got to tell someone, but we don’t know where to turn? How many of us are hiding a giant secret or eating lunch alone at school every single day?
Girls, I want to link hands with you in one giant circle and cry with you and praise Jesus together, because He’s our Healer.
If today you feel completely alone, for any reason, will you do these things?
1. Walk away from social media (and other technology) and run to the Bible.
Get away from the idea that your life is messed up while everyone else’s is problem-free and pretty. That’s such a lie from the enemy. Cling to passages like Psalm 139, Psalm 42, Psalm 86, and Psalm 27–28
2. Tell someone.
I know, you might think that no one will get it, that what you’re going through is too embarrassing to share, and that it’s better to stay hidden. But those are thoughts from the enemy.
Bring your brokenness into the light. Shine a spotlight on the darkness. The shadows don’t have to win.
Go to a parent, a youth leader, a pastor, a teacher, an older sibling, someone. Ask for help. Tell them what’s going on. There’s power in linking arms with someone who can pray for you and offer wise counsel.
You are not alone, forgotten, or unloved, because the grace and presence of Jesus Christ wraps around you like a lifeline. Cling to it.
— Writer’s Bio: Samantha Nieves loves grammar, lazy lake days, iced green tea, and writing about the glorious gospel truths that transform our everyday lives. A northern Indiana native, Samantha now lives in South Carolina and serves as the social media manager on the Revive Our Hearts staff. This article is originally published at www.reviveourhearts.com. Used with permission.