What does the Bible say about sex before marriage?
- Sex should be between married couples
- Sex before marriage is a sexual immorality
- There is a grave consequence for sex before marriage
Sex is a subject that isn’t easily discussed and for that reason, it is often misunderstood. But God’s Word does not leave us to our own understanding. His Word is clear and there are Biblical guides written for all life’s aspects, including sex. So, what does the Bible say about sex before marriage? Read on to learn more.
Sex Should Be Between Married Couples
God wants people to procreate. In fact, one of the first verses in the Bible (Genesis 1:28) reads,
“And God blessed them. And God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth and subdue it, and have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the heavens and over every living thing that moves on the earth”.
Other scriptures such as Genesis 9:1 and Psalms 127:3 also highlight the joy of sex and raising children. God created sex because He wants us to multiply and fill the Earth. However, He wants us to save sex for marriage.
God gives us a clear blueprint on how we can best experience the gift of intimacy and pleasure. The Bible tells us that sex is remarkably sacred and it is ultimately about seeking God’s design for us. We must understand that God’s instruction about sex is so much more than merely making people follow the Word. His interest is always rooted in a much bigger picture.
Sex is about two people becoming one flesh. It is meant to be an intimate experience between partners to create physical, emotional, and spiritual bonding. According to Genesis 2:24, “Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh”. To become one flesh refers to intimacy. It is done within the confines of marriage where two people’s hearts and souls become so connected that they become one.
Couples share all the pains and joys of life. What affects the wife also affects the husband. Sex is a powerful bonding factor that affects a couple’s relationship unlike any other. Its pleasure and intimacy ultimately bond a man and a woman.
Sex Before Marriage Is A Sexual Immorality
It’s true that you likely won’t see the word “premarital sex” exactly written on the Bible, However, what the Bible does talk about is sexual immorality.
1 Thessalonians 4:3-5 reads, “For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each one of you knows how to control his own body in holiness and honor, not in the passion of lust like the Gentiles who do not know God”.
1 Corinthians also 10:8 reads, “We must not indulge in sexual immorality as some of them did, and twenty-three thousand fell in a single day.”
So when the Bible says sexual immorality is wrong, what is it talking about exactly?
In the New Testament, the word often translated for sexual immorality is “porneia”, which means fornication. By definition, sexual immorality is defined as the “engagement in sexual intercourse outside the sanctity of marriage”. The same concept highlights the commandment against adultery. This is why the Bible reads in Hebrews 13:4, “Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous”.
God’s Word is clear: sex is sacred and should be done in the confines of marriage alone. We can trust this commandment is an expression of His love. The Word uses sexual purity between spouses as a relationship with God. Sex is a sacred bonding that provides immense joy when protected and nurtured by the love and commitment of marriage, but it also brings immense pain if it is broken.
There Is A Grave Consequence For Sex Before Marriage
The connection between sexual immorality and its consequences is best understood in the context of 1 Corinthians 6:13: which states, “Food is meant for the stomach and the stomach for food”—and God will destroy both one and the other. The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body.” It is clear that God commands to flee from sexual immorality as “the sexually immoral person sins against his own body.” (1 Corinthians 6:18).
We all know the Biblical story about sexual immorality involving. David and Bathsheba. One night in Jerusalem, King David stumbled upon the beautiful Bathsheba bathing (II Samuel 11:2). King David asked his servants about who she was and was told her name is Bathsheba, the wife of Uriah the Hittite.
Despite knowing she is married, King David called for Bathsheba and they slept together. Bathsheba later discovered she was pregnant and in an attempt to hide his sin, King David sent Uriah the Hittite to the front lines of battle, killing him.
God sent a man named Nathan to tell David about His utter contempt for fornicating with a married woman and sending Uriah the Hittite into battle to die. Though God forgave King David, his son with Bathsheba got sick and died in a week. We can see how committing sexual immorality can have dire punishments from God.
1 Corinthians 6:9 warns that those who commit sexual immorality cannot inherit the kingdom of God. It connotes that the actions surrounding sexual immorality deem a person unfit to come before God’s presence. Our bodies are a temple of the Holy Spirit.
This is why 1 Corinthians 6:19-20 further reads, “Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body”. The context of this assertion pertains to the commandment of avoiding sexual immorality and its translation to glorifying God.
In our era, sexual temptations outside God’s plan are present left and right. Sex outside marriage becomes more rampant. And even Christians, like yourself, will be tempted throughout your life. Temptation is ever-present among believers. Yet, the Word promises believers that “God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability” (1 Corinthians 10:13).
Many are still wondering what the Bible say about sex before marriage. As you’ve read, it’s clear that followers of Christ are to abstain from sex before marriage as it translates to sexual immorality. Keep in mind that God’s call to avoid sex before marriage is not intended to deprive you of joy, but instead, it is to preserve His design for sex and its divine intention for marriage.
When God calls us for sexual purity, it is an expression of love. He is calling us to become worthy of entering heaven and spending eternity with Him. May we have faith and trust the goodness of God’s call. Keep your heart and soul pure, He will return so much more. If you commit sexual immorality, it’s not too late to repent and ask for forgiveness.
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