FATHER TO THE FATHERLESS
Father of the fatherless and protector of widows is God in his holy habitation.
I am the youngest amongst three siblings. I remember my papa living with us until I was two years old, and then had to be away for work most of the time after that. I have two older brothers, and I was the sheltered and adored baby sister until I hit my teenage years. Eventually, both of my brothers started to live their own lives – Raymond had his own family and Richard started to run his own business. As we grew older, gestures of love and affection started growing cold.
During my teenage years, I became fanatical about boy bands (remember the 90s?). I had school and celebrity crushes. Of course, I wouldn’t miss movies of Leonardo Di Caprio (thank you, Titanic) and Tom Cruise. Idolizing these seemingly “perfect men” gave so much pleasure and significance to me.
Before graduating high school, I was invited to attend a retreat, and it was then that I gave my life to Jesus. We had an activity where we were asked to list on a sheet of paper the things we were struggling with. Idolizing celebrities was on my list and as I gave my life to Jesus, I also surrendered my struggles to the Lord.
I met my first boyfriend in College – a man who appreciated me and showed it. But there was one problem: God was not in our relationship. It was not a God-glorifying relationship. I lived two big lies during the course of that relationship: First, it doesn’t matter if you have different beliefs, for as long as you love each other. Second, follow your heart for as long as you are happy and not hurting anyone.
I poured all my heart and life to this man. But after nine years, we broke up. Just like that, via email, leaving me completely devastated and lost. There came a time when I didn’t even want to wake up anymore, until one night God spoke to me. “Father to the fatherless…” He kept on recalling this verse to me over and over again.
I started reading the Bible again and the “Parable of the Lost Sheep” hit me hard. I realized how this God, from whom I deliberately turned my face away to pursue an ungodly relationship, would actually leave His 99 righteous sheep to look for me! I went back to Him and to the church. I may have been saved long before but I missed out on serving Him as my Lord.
After that, I recommitted my life to God, with no more idols standing in the way. He slowly healed my heart. He revealed to me that the root of it all was living a “fatherless” life. God became the perfect Father to me in so many ways:
Love that lasts forever:
For I am sure that neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor powers, nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.
Romans 8:38- 39
Physical compliment from a Father:
For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well.
Psalms 139:13 -14
I lift up my eyes to the hills. From where does my help come? My help comes from the Lord, who made heaven and earth. He will not let your foot be moved; he who keeps you will not slumber.
Gives His affirmation:
The Lord your God is in your midst, a mighty one who will save; he will rejoice over you with gladness; he will quiet you by his love; he will exult over you with loud singing.”
Unconditional love and significance:
For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life.
Though he was in the form of God, did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped, but emptied himself, by taking the form of a servant, being born in the likeness of men. And being found in human form, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross.
I could go on and on about His perfection as a Father. I know, not all of us grew up in a fatherless home but all of us are looking for that “Perfect Love.”
After restoring my relationship with Him, He also restored my relationship with my papa! Things were a bit rough at first because of all the time we’ve lost to be together. But God’s love towards me became my training ground to love my papa. More than that, my papa came to receive Jesus in his life and got baptized!