“And I will ask the Father, and he will give you another Advocate, who will never leave you. He is the Holy Spirit, who leads into all truth. The world cannot receive him, because it isn’t looking for him and doesn’t recognize him. But you know him, because he lives with you now and later will be in you. No, I will not abandon you as orphans—I will come to you.” — John 14: 16-18

Could you imagine having to say goodbye to someone who was your everything? Your dependence? Your fortress? Your love? You’d probably feel lonely.

Loneliness is that feeling when you eat alone in the cafeteria or don’t get picked at a certain sport. It’s that feeling you get when you sit by yourself at the back row during Sunday service or feel like you don’t have a single soul in the world to talk to. It’s the feeling of being abandoned, of having no one left to journey with. 

 I’ve come to realize that you can also feel lonely even when you’re not alone. It’s the feeling of sinking despite being surrounded by a sea of people. It’s the feeling of being in a room full of faces and yet feeling like you don’t belong. 

 In John 14, the disciples knew that Jesus was about to depart from them. Over the next few days, Jesus would be arrested, tried, crucified, and would die. Putting ourselves in their shoes, it would be natural to be in a state of panic, worry, and sorrow. Their everything, their fortress, their love was about to be taken from them. They would be left behind in a world they are not citizens of anymore. That would’ve probably felt quite lonely. 

 Then it dawned on me — feeling lonely does not always mean you are alone. 

 Jesus told his disciples not to be troubled, but to trust in Him (v.1). He was going to prepare a place for them in His Father’s house. He goes on to say that He has to go so the world will know that he loves the Father (v.31), but assures them that He will send the Holy Spirit to be with them (v.16) and that He and the Father will come too (v.23). He promises this assurance to those who love Him (v.23), and those who love Him are those who keep His commandments (v.15).

 When we love Jesus, despite feeling however lonely at times, we are never truly alone.

 We have a great assurance that when we truly love Jesus, when we commit to obey and trust Him alone, then the Holy Spirit abides in us. He is the One who leads us into truth, teaching us and reminding us of everything Jesus has told us (v.26). We are His temple, His sanctuary (1 Corinthians 3:16). We are a sacred space for the One who has prepared a place for us. 

 He does this because He says He will not abandon us as orphans (v.18) because He has called us to be part of a family, for the Father now calls us children (1 John 3:1). We, along with our brothers and sisters in Christ, are now a family because we have the same Father (Hebrews 2:11).

 When we feel lonely at times, we can remember that we have a companion in the Holy Spirit inside of us. We can remember that we are now part of a family with God as our Father and other believers as our brothers and sisters (2 Corinthians 6:18). There’s company in the church of the Trinity.

Writer’s Bio: As a poet and songwriter, Mikee breathes in Scripture and breathes out art. He can be normally seen with a notebook, iced coffee, and a guitar. He wanders through the wilderness of life with his Bible (and a first aid kit.)