As teenagers, we experience the pressure of pursuing a relationship, and most of the time it is for the wrong reasons. Therefore, more often than not, we experience heartbreak. I know I did, and it’s one of the best things that has ever happened to me.

I remember feeling giddy and mushy inside, thinking that I had finally found ‘the one’. Since I was at the height of my emotions, I failed to realize that the relationship I was in was built on the wrong principles. It lacked spiritual guidance, and that was enough to tell that it wouldn’t have a pleasant ending. Sure, it felt romantic and exhilarating at first, but along with it came sacrifices: I dishonored my parents, I lied to myself, and worst of all I rebelled against God.

I kept asking the Lord for signs and answers on what I should do to avoid the pangs of this so-called romantic love. His command was pretty clear—He wanted me out of the relationship—but I chose to live in denial. I wanted to leave yet I continued to compromise. It was like ignoring the huge exit signs on an expressway. I was stubborn as I put my entire future on the line for temporary happiness.

And then, God had enough. He was sick of my sinful ways. He cared for me deeply and He didn’t want to see me hurt. He loved me so much, therefore He decided put an end to it. He allowed my heart to be broken.

I was crushed. At one point, I didn’t have the desire to live. That relationship destroyed me. It took away so much—my tears, my effort, and my time. I often locked myself in my room, sobbing, questioning, asking, and pleading for God to take away the pain. He certainly moves in mysterious ways, in ways we initially couldn’t accept, but in ways that would bring us true joy in His arms. He intervened—as though slapping me hard in the face. But amazingly enough, in the midst of my vulnerability, He revealed Himself to me as though giving me the tightest hug I’ve ever received. Little by little, with the His guidance and blessing, the Lord restored my broken heart.

God made me realize how selfish I had been by putting my own happiness before His. He loves me more than any guy ever could. He would woo me with the sight of His glorious creation, He’d cradle me in His arms late at night, He’d answer my call any time and any place, and He gives me reason to look forward to a new day. He made known to me that, truly, He’s the best man any girl could ever have.

It’s been years since that spiritual awakening and it brings joy to my heart to say that I can happily focused on more important aspects of my life – my spiritual, mental, and emotional growth. Now, I have more time for friends, family, and my Heavenly Father. It feels so liberating to know that God took away the burden that’s been weighing me down. I never longed for a romantic relationship since then, and I’ve never felt more at peace. Although I still continue to dream about my happy ending, I firmly entrust it to the Lord’s hands, because when He brings love to action, the stories we see in the movies would pale in comparison.

To the girls out there who are struggling to find someone, stop looking left and right. Instead, look up and seek God first. I encourage you to wait patiently in the Lord for He has a plan for you. And if history is any indication, His plans never fail. Aside from looking for the right person…

commit to being the right person first.

Proverbs 31: 30 says,
“Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.”

So go on, let God fill that void in your heart.

“The Lord is close to the broken-hearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” (Psalm 34:18)

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