Three years and five days ago, when the SCOTUS (Supreme Court of the United States) had ruled that way, I would have been one of the many people who would be celebrating. To show my love and support to the LGBT community, I would add the rainbow filter on my social media profile picture, post articles that celebrate the legalization of same-sex marriage in America and add #LoveWins. So if you feel that through this article I am somehow revealing something about myself that you never knew of, take it that way, because it is exactly what I am doing. I give you the privilege as one of the people who can view and read this.

There are some people in my friends list that can testify to my old lifestyle or to my old sexual orientation. There was a season in my life when I chose to raise my fist at God and live proud, thinking that I was made that way, so I wanted to live freely and be who I really was. I thought that I had every right to love and be with whoever I wanted to be with as long as I am not violating the rights of others. I made myself an image of a god that agreed to my decision and choices. Two years later, one evening came when God dealt with me! He made me realize the gravity of my sins. This former fool was put in horror to see that my beliefs and my way of living were offending and blasphemous to Him. It was not just the sin of homosexuality, but all the other sins that I committed. I was brought to my knees and for the first time, I understood what Jesus’ dying on the cross meant! I have sinned against a holy God who has holy standards and there was no way that I could meet them (Romans 3:23). He drew me to His Son Jesus Christ, who had died for my place, because the penalty of my sins is death (Romans 6:23). I desperately asked Him to save me from eternal damnation in hell. That night, Jesus, being a Lord and Savior became personal and real to me. I was forgiven of my sins; I was reconciled to God. I never felt condemned nor judged again for my former way of life since Jesus Christ had found me. But like how He saved the adulterer in John 8, I know too, that I am told to sin no more. Though I will never be able to outdo His love for me, my way of showing my love and gratitude for His sacrifice on the cross for me is to obey His commandments (John 14:15) and to turn away from my former way of life.

As I repent (continuously) of my sins and have become a student of the Bible, I realize that the god that I believed in and thought that I loved and worshiped was not the God of the Bible. As I read, study, and meditate on His Word, I started knowing who He really is, His character and His standards. Yes, God is a God of love but He is also a holy and just God. Those are His characters that a lot of people choose not to bother with, put aside, take lightly or may not even be aware of. He requires us to live perfect holy lives but that is impossible for a man to do! Tell me, do you think you can perfect obeying His Ten Commandments? You might answer, “No, but at least I’m not a murderer or a thief. I lie but they are white lies only.” I cannot perfect them neither! I sin every day! Then you think to yourself that you are unlike other sinners, so you still see yourself as good! The hard truth is, that’s not by God’s standards. That is by our human standards. Since He is a holy God, sin cannot be near Him, thus we cannot be near Him. Sin has separated us from our Creator. But in His abounding love, kindness, and mercy, He gave a way for sinners, like me, to be reconciled to Him and enjoy Him forever, and that is through His Son Jesus Christ (John 3:16). While I was a sinner, He died for me (Romans 5:8).  I do not live a sinless life now but by God’s grace and by the Holy Spirit’s enablement, I pursue his holiness and righteousness.

As a believer and follower of Jesus Christ, I choose to obey His command to love, and so I love all people of both sides of this issue. But what my Lord taught me as it says in the Bible is that love does not rejoice in evil and that I must speak the truth. I am not forcing anyone to agree to my Christian stand and beliefs but I am not choosing as well to be quiet about this. Because if I do, then I am not loving. I might even gain haters, lose friends or be called a bigot for voicing out my stand, and that is okay. I am a wretched sinner, I consider that worse. What matters to me is how God sees my motivation in speaking His truth. You matter to me. I do not hate those who have a contrary stand to mine but I hate how Satan blinds the hearts of the many. It is sin that I hate. I am still your friend but I do not condone sin. To be more specific, everything that God calls a sin. My motivation is love so I am letting you know that the day will come when we will all have to stand in front of Jesus and will be judged by the Judge of all. Sin may bring us pleasure, it could last for months or even years! But it will never bring us lasting joy, which lasts for eternity. God gave His word that the day will come when Satan, death and sin will be eliminated. Do not live by the standards of this world. Do not desire to be perfectly politically correct. Do not give in to easy joy and happiness. Do not try so hard to get the approval of the many. These will all come to pass and really would not matter. Eventually, you will get tired of running after all these temporal things. Seek what lasts forever before it is too late and chase after what is eternal: Love.

Love is a Person, His name is Jesus! You are loved and He loves you that much that He had to die on the cross and resurrect so that you, too, can be freed from sin and be given a new life! And the good news is, Love has won two thousand years ago!

In this is love, not that we have loved God but that he loved us and sent his Son to be the propitiation for our sins.
 1 John 4:10

Soli Deo Gloria!


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